There are many bad situations in life that can be traced back to a series of material F-ups. Off the top of my head, getting knocked in high school, flunking out of school, getting involved with hard drugs and getting arrested/going to prison top of the list. Getting face tattoo has to be up there too - not sure how much good can come of that. But, we can't help you with that stuff here. We just do grappling.
On that note, being stuck in side control after your opponent secures his/her position and becomes entrenched is a magically screwed position. It can be discouraging and can exhaust you if you fail to escape. Logically, the best defense is to avoid the mistakes that got you there in the first place. But, we know that isn't always possible. So, we're here to help.
You need to watch this video from Kurt Osiander, Ralph Gracie black belt and veteran grappler/fighter, on escaping side control. Kurt not only has the finest hair style in jiu jitz, he's funnier than we are and seems like the kind of burly, gnarly dude we'd roll with. More importantly, his technique and instruction is flawless. This is basic stuff that you must know (as we often say). Take it to heart and learn it. It will save you some pain in the future.